2018 to 2019:Starting the Year of Self-Care

It’s been a little quiet on here lately. 2018 was a big year for One Cute Cowboy and I. We welcomed into our world the cutest Lil’ Cowboy and our hearts swell with love and pride each passing month as we continue to grow and learn as a family of 3. I say with confidence, I’ve grown more mentally, emotionally, and spiritually this past year, than in any other year in my life. Becoming a mom has totally rocked my world, in a good way, but also in “everything’s changed” kind of way. Being a good parent comes with a multitude of changes and self-sacrifices. Some we welcomely make, and some we make gritting our teeth.

One thing that has been hard for me, has been making time for self-care and cultivating my relationships with others. It’s easy to be completely wrapped up in your new little one and forget about yourself and others. And don’t get me wrong, I 100% believe it’s okay to be wrapped up in your new little life, I think you should be engulfed in this new treasure…but I also believe it’s incredibly important to take care of your physical and mental self, your marriage, and your close relationships.

Now, I’ve never been big on the whole “New Years” racket. Making resolutions, making a big to-do about it being a new year and a new beginning, and so on and so forth. (Obviously, I’m just now getting around to posting this a week already, into the new year!) You all know what I’m talking about. There’s nothing wrong with any of it, it’s just never been that big a deal to me I suppose...But with that being said, I would like to state a few things I look forward to working towards this coming year (See what I did there 😉)

  • Enjoy Reading Again: 2018 might be one of my slowest reading years to date. I sadly only read a handful of books, and I’m afraid to report the ones I did read are hardly mentionable. So this year I want to take some time to read some good, enjoyable books! (If you have any good recommendations please send them my way!)
  • More Water, More Veggies: Since Little Bear was born I’ve only drank water. With a sip of coke here and there and I think I’ve had 1 or 2 glasses of iced tea. Other than that it’s been my daily (sometimes 2-3 times) hot tea and then it’s just been water. That being said, I still don’t feel like I drink what I should for my daily intake. Actually this is a goal of both One Cute Cowboy’s and mine- Drink more water! And while we’re at it, let’s throw in “to eat more veggies” too! I want Little Bear to grow up loving veggies and fruits, so in order for that to happen, mom and dad need to be intaking more as well.
  • Purge: Since having a new one, we realized just how much “stuff” we have in our home. For some reason I get a sentimental attachment to odd things. Therefore every nook and cranny seem to be filled in our little home. I plan on doing some serious purging in the next few months. I’ve just started reading about KonMari’s method of decluttering. I kinda dig it and I’m wiling to try it.
  • Quality Time: I’m as guilty as anyone about constantly looking at my phone. 🙄 I plan on being more conscientious of my time spent on my phone and taking breaks from social media to make sure I’m spending quality time with my ever-learning son, and my cute husband. 😉 That being said…
    Scheduled Posting: I want to be better this year in having more of a scheduled posting so y’all are aware of when new posts are coming and it’s not so hit and miss for all of you! I haven’t quite decided what that’s going to look like yet, once a week, bi-weekly, once a month? I’m not sure yet, what would y’all like to see?
    Self Care: Lastly, I want to spend this year being sure to take time for self-care. I have a few ways I plan on doing that, but my biggest way I want to work on that is spending more time in God’s word. I’ve lacked in my daily devotionals and prayer time it seems lately, and I can definitely tell when I do. That’s something I ( and I would say all of us) need to keep a healthy mentality and attitude. But I also plan on spending some self care reading, journaling again, and just some alone time to collect my thoughts, write down my goals, and have some quiet to reflect on and listen to God’s words.

2018 tested my patience, my marriage, my self-worth, my heart, my mind, my physical body, my organizational abilities, and my pocketbook. (If you think having a baby won’t test every single one of those aspects of life, then show me your guidebook! Haha!) But it’s also brought more love than I knew imaginable, more patience than I realized, a stronger love to my marriage, more love for myself for what my body and mind and spirit can endure, and more blessings than I knew were possible. God has favored me in this year, and I’m so grateful for His love and patience. I will continue to lean on His guidance and trust His timing and faithfulness. As I’ve been writing this and thinking about 2018, this hymn keeps coming to the surface,

“Great is thy faithfulness,

Great is thy faithfulness.

Morning by morning new mercies I see.

All I have needed thy hand has provided.

Great is thy faithfulness,

Lord unto me.”

I pray that in 2019 I never lose sight of His faithfulness, and to remember, all that I need, His hand will provide.

Happy New Year! May 2019 be full of blessings and new adventures and lots and lots of love. ❤️

The Moon-Lit Sessions

My lifestyle has changed a bit in the last few months, and I’m up at all hours of the night. I’m beginning to realize why God made me a night owl, he was just prepping me for motherhood.

I’ve always liked the night-time. Growing up I’d stay up watching Nick at Nite until the wee hours of the morning and the infomercials would take over. As I got older (and Nick at Nite stopped playing the good shows) I’d spend those late nights watching movies,writing in my journals, or reading. When I lived in Nashville, those hours are where I found my solitude to write, to think, to be creative. (I used to have another blog on Tumblr that was primarily pictures, but fun and inspiring.)

So now as I find myself awake in the wee hours of the night I revisit some of those habits. I find myself searching to be inspired. Which raises the questions, What inspires me? Where am I pouring out my creativity? What makes my soul feel energized?

I think it’s important to stay inspired and to ask yourself these questions often. To keep your mind stimulated. To do things that “fill your cup” so to speak. One of my favorite sayings is, “you can’t pour from an empty cup,” meaning you must first make sure you are taking care of yourself before you can start “pouring” or reaching out to love/help/appreciate others. If to haven’t taken the time to nurture and take care of your own soul and mind, how can you help others?

So what feeds your soul? What makes you feel alive and happy? Maybe it’s writing. Maybe it’s baking. Maybe it’s climbing a mountain. Maybe it’s sitting alone, in the quiet for 5 minutes. Whatever feeds you, whatever fills your cup, make sure you’re making time for that. Now, I know that’s much easier said than done. If I’ve learned anything from becoming a mother it is this, time is no longer yours, and has taken on a whole new meaning. I don’t think one truly understands time until it’s no longer their own. Haha! But honestly, I understand how “finding the time” can truly be a difficult thing.

But I urge you, find the time to recharge and fill your cup. In this season of my life, in those late night sessions, I find myself in prayer more often than not. Prayer has a way of recharging me spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. It can inspire me and inspire new thoughts and ideas. Never underestimate what prayer can do for you.

So what do your “moon-lit sessions” look like? How are you recharging and staying inspired? I want to hear from my readers about what’s inspiring you or how you’re staying inspired!

*ASpottedHeart

Self Care

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Mental and emotional health is so incredible important, and it’s something I think people overlook. I recently was introduced to a Danish practice called Hygge. The Oxford Dictionary defines this as follows, 

A quality of coziness and comfortable conviviality that engenders a feeling of contentment or well-being (regarded as a defining characteristic of Danish culture.)

This is a great practice of self-care. Taking time for yourself, relaxing, and being thankful in everyday pleasures. This blog post is the first I read on this, and it explains it in great form. The overview I get from Hygge is summed up in these few ideas:

  • Atmosphere- having a cozy place to retreat to
  • Having a heart of Gratitude
  • Comfort- think big pillows and soft blankets
  • Coziness-hot tea or coffee
  •  Connecting- whether it be with yourself, God, or others 

I know what several of you are thinking right now, “Yeah right! That sounds great and all, but I don’t have time for all of that!” 

Which is my point exactly, you have to take time for self care or you’ll fall apart or fall into someone you don’t want to be. I’ve been guilty of this as well. I want to make a conscious effort of “slowing down to smell the roses.” 
Here are some my thoughts:

  • The Art of Saying No

This is a hard one. If you’re like me, you don’t like to disappoint anyone. But I’ve learned the hard way, just because you can doesn’t always mean that you should. Sometimes things get so piled up you kind of lose yourself in trying to please everyone else, and getting done what everyone else needs for you to do. Now, I’m not saying don’t do anything. I’m just saying know your limits. Just because someone doesn’t think your plate looks as “full” as Jane’s next door doesn’t mean that it’s not full for you! It’s okay to turn stuff down, or say no when you know you can’t spend quality time on the project or if you know it’s too much to take on in this season of your life. It’s okay. My motto is, “you can only do what you can do!” So don’t feel the pressure of always having to be a yes-man.

  • Drink in quiet moments

One of One Cute Cowboys favorite things to do when it’s nice out is simply get a comfy chair, sit under a shade tree, and enjoy a peach (or a beer) and just drink in a few quiet moments outside. It’s important to have silent moments to gather thoughts, say a simple prayer, or just simply be. We live in a world full of racket, and in the words of Ferris Bueller, 

“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it.”

  • Do Something for YOU

Whether it be taking time to take a bubble bath, watch an episode of your favorite show, read a chapter in your current book, whatever it is, take the time to do you. Even if it’s just for a moment. I think it’s important for you to take in life’s little pleasures every now and again. Sometimes I think we feel almost guilty for endulging in something we enjoy, but I’m here to tell ya, it’s okay! 

  • Watch a Sunrise or Sunset

Nothing makes me feel more alive and thankful than watching a sunrise or sunset. Something about watching that big ‘ol Sun do it’s thing is absolutely magical to me. God has an amazing color palette! I’m always in awe of His magnificents. While we’re on the subject, there’s something very majestic about the moon as well. I feel incredibly at peace when I can look up into the stary, night sky and see a big beautiful moon. I just think it’s important to be appreciative of the beauty around you, it’s  there if you just look.

  • Journaling/Praying/Listening to Music

My whole life I’ve found journaling is one of my favorite outlets, I guess that’s why I like this whole blogging thing. 😉  I’ve kept journals my entire life and it helps me emotionally and spiritually. To me journaling and praying go hand-in-hand. Seems like if I start out journaling, I start a conversation with God. It helps me to get all of my thoughts, worries, hopes, and dreams  out on paper. One of my favorite things to do is listen to my record player while I journal or even blog. I’ve got some really great vinyls that are perfect for mellowing out. Music can be powerful and incredibly therapeutic. 

  • Spend Time With an Animal

You guys, animals are so incredibly intuative. I can’t tell you how often coming home to my dogs (cats, horses, and calves) is a completely calming experience after a rough/long day. I can remember when I lived in Tennessee I’d come home and just lay in the floor with my pup, Huck. Especially those times I was homesick or just felt down on my luck. They have such a calming, knowing presence about them. I’ve always been a dog-lover and I firmly believe dogs are man’s best friend…you can’t convince me otherwise. I think it’s good for the mind, heart, and soul to have a furry companion in your life.

  • 5 minutes

Take 5 minutes in the morning (or evening.) Grab a hot tea or a cup of coffee and just meditate on your day, pray, write…do whatever you want in those 5 minutes, but give yourself 5 minutes to just be. 


Something Hygge stresses is having a space to do these type of things. A comfortable, safe atmosphere, a place of relaxation. I dream of a little reading nook with fluffy blankets, twinkle lights, and comfy pillows. But I definitely don’t have to have all of that to simply spend a little time on me.

I hope this has helped some of you that are finding it hard to juggle everything life throws at you. I’m obviously no expert, these are all just my own thoughts and opinions, there’s a world of things out there to see and explore. Don’t limit yourself. I’d love to hear what some of your self-care tips are!

*ASpottedHeart