This past week One Cute Cowboy and I celebrated 3 years of marriage! If you were to ask him, he’d say it’s felt like 3 minutes under water…(insert a huge eye-roll from me.) He jokes, but it’s definitely been an adjustment for the both of us, because we were both pretty established in our ways prior to meeting. Needless to say we’ve learned what seems like a lot in our three years. We definitely don’t have it all figured out, but I wanna share a few things that we do have figured out.
Don’t go to bed mad.
Okay, so this seems cliche at the very least, but this is such a true piece of advice. I’ve heard this my whole life, and all-be-danged if it hasn’t popped in my mind when I’ve been lying in bed fuming about something or other. I’ve always found if I go ahead and talk it out, I feel a whole lot better than if I hold onto that through the night and wake up in a funk. I think it’s safe to say it’s always good to clear the air before stepping into a new day.
This is one of One Cute Cowboy’s pieces of advice. He says, “It’s always good to compromise in any situation because marriage isn’t a job you can walk away from, it’s a job you’re continuously having to work at and make work.”
It just makes your whole married world a lot easier to give a little every now and then. In marriage it’s no longer only “your needs” but “his/her needs” as well. Meeting in the middle most certainly isn’t always the easiest task, but in the end it becomes easier (and better) than being angry with one another.
One of our favorite things is just driving around listening to good music and singing along to our favorite songs. My point with this one is actaully do stuff together even if it’s the little things. Enjoy each other’s company and enjoy just being around one another. Take time to do little things together even if it is just going to cake cattle together and have time to chit-chat and sing-along to some of your favorite songs. Some of those small moments together have been some of our best conversations.
This one kinda goes without saying. But sometimes I know Riley doesn’t always want to hear about my latest buy, or how I need my eyebrows waxed (eek!) or my celebrity gossip (everyone has that one celebrity they follow-up on, am I right?) but he listens just like a friend would. He’s without a doubt my soul companion, but on top of that he’s my friend. He listens to me when I’m sad, or angry, or gushing about something completely ridiculous, he’s there to listen. That’s something that’s very much appreciated.
Apologize (and admit when you’re wrong)
Spoiler alert: you won’t always be right. I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned the fact that Riley and I are both red-heads so I think it’s safe to say we’re both pretty dang hard-headed and can both be a little ahem, hotheaded. Needless to say neither of us like to admit when we’re wrong, but marriage does a funny thing to you. It’s like once you say “I do,” you’ve swallowed this truth serum, that makes you admit when you’re wrong. Haha! I joke, but it’s best to think of it that way. Pride will get you no where but by yourself. Even though sometimes it’s a pretty hard rock to swallow, in the end you realize it only makes you feel better to say you’re sorry and admit you were wrong. Here’s the kicker, sometimes you say you’re sorry even if you weren’t in the wrong! One Cute Cowboy and I will both attest to this one, it’s not always about being right or wrong, but to be forgiving and gracious to one another.
And last but not least…
Always end the day with I Love You
At the end of the day whether it’s been the best day or the worst day, reminding your love to one another is the best way you can end it. When I hear those words from my cowboy it reassures me that through thick and thin we’ll be okay and reminds me that we’re doing just fine.
Well, that’s all I’ve got. I know it’s not ground-breaking advice and it’s certainly nothing compared to 30+ year advice married couples could tell you, but it’s a few things we’ve learned so far. We’re in no means perfect, but we sure try to love each other through our imperfections.
Hope you enjoyed this post!
P.S. Always remember to tilt your head when you kiss a Cowboy. Those cowboy hats aren’t going anywhere, ladies!